'What if the real reason why we use anger is to simply avoid expressing how we truly feel? What if we actually find it more comfortable to react to someone rather than tell them the truth of what is going on? Whilst we may not enjoy the ill consequences of being in anger, what if we perceive anger as easier than truly expressing?' - Brendan Mooney Psychologist
'Anger basically gives another two options: to back down or take them on (submit or dominate), and hence it is imposing and disrespectful because it never allows another to simply be themselves and make choices as they feel to.' - Brendan Mooney Psychologist
'It does not make sense to hold resentment or anger towards someone. Whilst we may think we can justify it, ultimately it reduces our own quality of life and this affects the quality of life we all live in. And what has ever truly been accomplished from that?' - Brendan Mooney Psychologist
'Is it possible that we use anger as a form of manipulation? For example, when a person is angry people often describe needing to 'walk around on eggshells' because they feel the person might otherwise have an outburst. Hence anger is used as a form of controlling other people in an attempt to keep them away so that they will not come too close and possibly trigger what the person who is angry is trying to avoid dealing with (the underlying hurt).' - Brendan Mooney Psychologist
'Is it possible that we use anger as a form of protection to push people away, believing that it will prevent us from getting hurt? But being angry actually hurts, so are we preventing being hurt or adding to it?' - Brendan Mooney Psychologist
Brendan Mooney Psychologist
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